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4 Tips to Get Back on Track After New Year’s Resolution Failures

Studies show that by January 20th, most New Year’s Resolutions are busted. So, if we’re science-ing and being technical, my 2016 is ruined and my life is over because I ate rice crispy treats for dinner last night, instead of a salad. If we’re being honest, I also haven’t exercised every day, like I said I would in my New Year’s resolution Facebook post.

Let’s be real: who’s got time to eat all the salads and run all the marathons? Not me.

How can we get this resolutions train back on track without feeling like a complete rice-crispy-filled failure?


I’ve got four tips:

Redefine your definition of success. And be okay with it. Expectations are the fastest way to kill your momentum when it comes to keeping those New Year’s resolutions. No matter what your focus is, you’re bound to find someone doing it better on social media. But that doesn’t have to kill your vibe. Instead, redefine success.

Basketball Hall of Fame inductee and 27-year UCLA basketball coach, John Wooden, coined his own definition of success as, “Peace of mind attained only through self-satisfaction and knowing you made the effort to do the best of which you’re capable.”

Success = doing the best you can.

Pick new resolutions. I know, it seems like quitting. But it’s not. Did you do your best to keep your resolutions? If not, go back to tip #1. If you did give it your best, and couldn’t succeed, consider getting real with yourself; take a good look at the resolutions you made January 1st. Think about other goals you’re bound to achieve when you give it your best—maybe even something you can achieve multiple times, and maybe even by tomorrow. Pick attainable goals, keep your expectations in check, and you’ll be on the path to keeping your resolution longer.

Celebrate every single win. Once you redefine success, or maybe lighten your resolution load, you’ll find yourself meeting and exceeding your goals (#winning). Resist the urge to devalue yourself and your achievement for any reason—instead, stand in that awesomeness, own it, and celebrate that win. For extra self-satisfaction, write your successes on a Post-It and stick those bad boys some where you’ll see it all the time!

Appreciate each failure, and try again. Unless your resolution is to eat a rice crispy treat every day (and yay for leap years—366 rice crispy treats!), failure is bound to happen. Some may not face it, but many of us will. And the only way we keep from feeling like a lump of a human being with no ability to succeed, is to try again. Being able to appreciate a failure, no matter how unsettling, is hard. But getting up, dusting yourself off, and trying again is both necessary and powerful.

Consider this quote (one of my personal favorites) from President Teddy Roosevelt:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming… who at the best, knows…the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”

Success isn’t always winning, it’s found in the wanting, the trying, and the kick-butt ability to keep going, even when you fail.

So what if it’s only January 20th and your resolutions are shot? You get to start over and try again. You faced the arena, tried your best, and came up short…and that’s okay. The key is refusing to define yourself based on a stupid resolution or failure. You are not your failures.

You can get this train back on track! And if all else fails, the rice crispy treat thing is a great option.

How are you doing with your resolutions? Are you starting over? Tell us in the comments!

shannonPosted by Shannon Prentice, Content Development Manager

5 Tips to Fund Your Military Family’s Future

New Years can call for reflection and resolutions to set the next 365 days in the right direction. You resolve to take care of yourself, your military family, and this includes your financial well-being, too. If you’ve decided that this is the year to take charge of your finances, take advantage of these five budget tips to monitor your monthly expenses.


Organize Your Bills Digitally
There are many software programs, online services, and apps available designed to help a person track their monthly bills digitally. Some of these services require paying a few dollars a month. However, others are completely free. Money Stream is a free online service that can alert you when bills are due with a calendar interface.

Track Receipts
Bills are only part of a person’s monthly budget. If you want to get a clear picture of how your finances are being spent, track all of your receipts. But doing this by hand can be a real pain. Thankfully, there are receipt scanners and smart phone apps that can automate the process for you and add totals to a database.

Consider VA Loans
If you are a service member, veterans, or eligible surviving spouse, take advantage of the Veteran Administration’s loan program. A VA loan is a type of mortgage guaranteed by the federal government, but made available to veterans and service members through different lenders, some that even provide loans with an interest rate 2% less than expected. VA loans have some great benefits for many prospective home owners, like not needing a down payment. They also offer interest rates lower than comparable conventional mortgages.

Create an Emergency Expense Account
You should have one savings account that is strictly for emergency expenses. This can include sudden bills, like when your car needs unexpected repairs, or if your plumbing goes awry. You may also have health bills and need to pay off a good portion of your deductible at once. This account should have a few thousand dollars in it and be replenished as the money is spent.

Create Budgets
Create budgets to track your expenses. This should include budgets for particular months, as well as budgets for the week. You can do it on paper, or even in a spreadsheet file. This way, you can add totals and change numbers around as needed.

Fiscal responsibility is something that is important for everyone to manage properly, especially as a military family. Take advantage of the resources available to you, and put some plans in place to make sure you have the ability to accurately track your expenses. Avoiding debt is always worth the effort.

Will you try any of these tips with your military family’s budget? Let us know! 

Posted by Rachelle Wilber, a freelance writer living in the San Diego, California area. When she isn’t on her porch writing in the sun, you can find her shopping, at the beach, or at the gym. Follow her on twitter: @RachelleWilber

A New Year Literally Means New Everything

As the month of December comes to a close, I think back to the resolutions I have made over the years. I reminisce about the time and place, and the hopes and expectations of a fresh start. Whether my goals included fitness, travel, professional growth, or even a simple attitude adjustment – I was ready and determined to succeed.

This year, however, change is inevitable and my determination is failing. Today, December 31st, marks the end of my husband’s active duty military career. My assumption was that this time would be fulfilling and exciting. What does that say about me? In reality, there is a finality that feels something like an 800 pound gorilla sitting on my chest. And a sadness that I still can’t explain.


In our situation, a job in the civilian world is prompting a mid-year move from Georgia to North Carolina. Much like many of our military moves, decisions were made late in the game, causing a flurry of activity in a fairly short amount of time. Understanding that retirement was getting closer, we bought a house and slowly began digging our roots a little deeper. As we prepare to uproot this time, familiarity mixes with the unknown, sparking new feelings and emotions. Ones we will learn to deal within the New Year.

Military families out there know the drill. New home, new schools, new friends, new sports teams, new church, and new activities all come to be in new surroundings. Being a military family is an identity of sorts, and leaving that behind is new, too.  Don’t get me wrong; I don’t feel like we are being banished from Military Family Island, but the lifestyle we knew is soon going to be a thing of the past.

It feels like we are going to plow into 2016 like a high-speed train about to jump its track. I am nervous because this fresh start seems very daunting. So, ready or not, this New Year’s resolution to ‘tackle and embrace NEW’ is almost here. I’d be lying if I said I was ready, but I would also be lying if I said I was not.

Good or bad, here’s to new.

Are you preparing for something new in the new year? How will you tackle it?

kimPosted by Kim Edger, Website Architect

Dear Self: We’ve got Some Resolving to do…


I resolve to put myself out there . . . But not too far out there.

I resolve to protect my heart and my time.

I resolve to volunteer more often . . . But not for everything. I resolve never again to agree to be a room mom, plan the holiday party, and do the unit newsletter at the same time.

I resolve to be more understanding of my spouse when he says “mission first” . . . But only when he’s looking. I am still going to cry in the bathroom when he’s not.

I resolve to sometimes let him see me cry.

I resolve to be a better friend. I resolve to drink less wine and eat less chocolate with my friends. I resolve to sometimes bring a veggie tray to the potluck.

I resolve to stop lying in my resolutions–everyone knows I’m not going to trade wine for veggies.

I resolve to put myself first sometimes.

I resolve to make this year the year that I chase my dreams. I resolve to not be afraid of failing.


I resolve to check my husband’s uniforms for ballpoint pens BEFORE I put it in the wash.

I resolve to stop doing my husband’s washing. Scratch that. I’ll do his washing, as long as he does the cooking.

I resolve to read less “bad news” and seek out uplifting stories.

I resolve to be a force for good and give the world more good stories to write.

I resolve to stop wearing my husband’s PT gear as pajamas.

I resolve to speak up when I see something that isn’t right.

I resolve not to let fear rule my words and actions. Even when it’s hard.

I resolve to let a healthy level of fear encourage me to clean my carpets more often because housing inspections and move-out fees.

I resolve to have the best year ever for 2016.


What do you resolve to do in the new year?

HeatherPosted by Heather Aliano, Social Media Manager

Military Spouses: Here Are the Only Two New Year’s Resolutions You Need

Hey MilSpouses, It’s that time of year again! Time to evaluate our lives and think of all the coulda, shoulda, wouldas as we come up with our New Year’s Resolutions. Should we lose weight? Work out more? Stop cursing? (Nahhhh) Stop yelling at our kids? Let’s not get crazy.


I want to save you some time this December. You have enough to do. We all want to be our best selves, but who has time for all that self-reflection? If you want to spend the next year tracking your calories and putting dollars in a jar every time you drop the f-bomb, stop reading. I am proud of you and what I know you’ll surely accomplish. But for the rest of us, I’ve thought this through and believe I’ve come up with the only 2 resolutions you need for 2016:

  1. Don’t feed the trolls. I resolve not to get involved in drama in 2016. Won’t you join me? Command cliques? Psht. Moms at the playground who don’t think your kid should be wearing snow boots in July? Who cares?! Meanies on Facebook calling you a Dependapotamous? Don’t even bat an eyelash. Don’t think about any of it. None of it matters. These people want to see us suffer, but we don’t have to! We won’t feed their sadistic pleasures. We’ll go about our business paying attention to what matters. Let’s not give the trolls one ounce of our energy in 2016, because you’re going to need that energy for your second resolution.
  2. Dance! Do it! Literally and figuratively. You don’t look like J-Lo when you drop it like it’s hot? Neither do I! Do it anyway. In The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown says, “Until we teach our children that they need to be more concerned with how they look and with what other people think, they dance. They even dance naked. Not always gracefully or with the beat, but always with joy and pleasure.” Let’s stop worrying what everybody thinks. Let’s stop THINKING so hard every second of the day and let our body make the decisions for us. Take the orders you didn’t think you wanted. Wear that sexy dress to the command party because you look GOOD—and you’ll look even better wearing it proudly as you dance your tush off. When we dance we feel vulnerable—and isn’t that what life is about? It’s hard to allow ourselves to push through that vulnerability, but you know what’s on the other side? Pure joy.

I’d ask you to take a pledge with me right now so we can hold each other accountable, but I bet we don’t even need to do that. We’ll see the joy on each other’s faces. Happy New Year!

Are these two resolutions you can get behind? If so, get to dancing and share this post on Facebook!

besaPosted by Besa Pinchotti, Communications Director

3 tips to beat the post-holiday slump

3 tips to beat the post-holiday slumpYou’d think with all of the stress that the holiday season often brings with it, we’d be happy to see it go. But somehow, after the perfect meals are cooked, you (and Santa) managed to get every must-have gift, and your in-laws have gone home, we feel sentimental as we crash land into January.

With freezing temperatures and grey skies, your favorite TV shows on winter hiatus (a personal struggle), and returning to work after vacation, it’s easy to catch a case of the new year blues. But there’s a cure! Consider these tips to help you come out of winter hibernation with a smile on your face.

Step 1- Take on something new

New Year’s resolutions have gotten a bad rap, but even if you don’t exactly keep up with your mission to go to the gym six days a week, you can still do something with the intention behind that idea. Have you always wanted to see what the fuss was about Zumba? Lots of gyms have guest and trial passes at the start of the year, so you can grab a friend and try it out. Latin tribal dancing not your thing? Even committing to walking around the neighborhood once a day or finally digging out that cross stitch kit you never got around to re-gifting can be considered steps in the right direction or help get you out of a rut. This doesn’t just work for adults — get kids in on the fun, too. Sign them up for a new activity or set a reading challenge for the winter months. Taking chances and indulging whims are great ways to surge your endorphins. Who knows, something could stick and become a worthwhile habit.

Step 2- Get your mind right

Yes, it’s cold. Yes, you have to go to work or do chores around the house. No, you can’t stay in your sweat pants all day. Instead of growling at passersby until you get your coffee, try to approach each day differently. Think what you want about the hokiness of positive affirmations, but there is something great about stopping yourself mid-complaint and changing your viewpoint. We might not have control over morning traffic or grumpy cashiers, but we do have control over our reactions and perspective. Instead of carrying over old stressors and attitudes from last year, think of the new year as a clean slate. Take the extra time you’ll be spending indoors to get organized, quit the stinking thinking, and muster up some energy. April will be here before you know it.

Step 3- Treat yourself

When reading this step, your mind might have immediately jumped to a shopping spree or eating an entire cheesecake, but treating yourself comes in less elaborate forms, too. Shape your days so that at some point you can have a few “me” moments, be it reading your favorite blog (or magazine), talking on the phone (or texting), catching up on a show on the DVR, or going for a run. Sure, a full uninterrupted day at the spa is a fantasy for most of us, but carving out even 15 minutes to do something you like can make winter an easier pill to swallow.

Getting back into the swing of things isn’t always fun, but reshaping your approach, adding a few new activities, and taking some time for yourself could make the next few months fly by. However, if you feel like the blues are here to stay, seek help where you feel most comfortable, whether it’s talking with friends or family or a counselor.

How are you battling the post-holiday blues?

maranathaPosted by Maranatha Bivens, Communications Editor at the National Military Family Association

It’s resolution time!

National Military Family Association New Year's ResolutionsIt’s a new year! Time for new beginnings and a fresh start. Many people make New Year’s resolutions and, even if they get broken, we are still a fan of setting goals and planning for the year ahead.

Did you make a resolution for 2013? Here are some of the National Military Family Association staff’s resolutions and goals for the year, in case you need ideas!

Stop eating out at restaurants – Michelle W, Americorps Member

Take more photos throughout the year – Bailey B, Online Engagement Manager

Have a more positive perspective – Maranatha B, Communications Editor

I want to eat healthier – Karen C, Volunteer Services Coordinator, National Capital Region

To be more patient – Anne M, Development and Membership Deputy Director

To carve out time in my schedule to focus on my physical well-being (hit the gym!) – C.C. G, Government Relations Deputy Director

Spending more quality time with my kids – Amanda A, Content Manager, MyMilitaryLife app

Eat less sugar – Caroline R, Development and Membership Manager

Volunteer more – Hannah P, Communications Deputy Director

So, what is your 2013 New Year’s resolution or goal?