Today, the fourth Sunday in September, is Gold Star Mother’s Day—a day to honor the moms who have lost a son or daughter in service to our country. Losing someone you gave birth to goes against the natural ways of the world—we expect to bury a parent one day, painful as that is, but we never expect to bury our own child.
Talking to Gold Star Mothers, there are certain feelings many of them share.
Here are four things they want you to know:
- We want to talk about it.We want to talk about our child, so don’t be afraid of “reminding us” of what happened. We’re just glad you remember, too. As Gold Star Mother Phyllis Sission told us about her son, 2nd Justin Sisson: “We talk about [Justin] all the time. The fear for us all, and that includes all Gold Star families, is that our loved ones will be forgotten. That is unbearable.”
- We still support our military.Yes, something horribly tragic happened to our babies. Yes, they were in the military when it happened. But we all knew this was a possibility. When our sons and daughters took the oath of duty, it was with the purest of hearts. They wanted to serve this country, even if it meant making the ultimate sacrifice.
- We are never “over it.”Some of us became Gold Star Mothers 30 years ago. Some of us are new to this pain. No matter how much time passes, though, we never forget. We do get better at getting through each day, but we are never able to move on.
- We enjoy celebrating with you.When our child’s friend earns a promotion or an award, please include us in the celebration. It helps to be around those who served alongside him or her. We are their mothers but you were her brothers and sisters in arms. Please remember that we are family.
This Gold Star Mother’s Day, let’s honor these mothers’ wishes along with their child’s memory.