PCSing is an adventure with the opportunities to live in new places, meet new people, learn new things, and have new experiences. It’s an adventure hoping your furniture fits in the new house, and learning the driving style/etiquette of your new town. PCSing is a total, ‘bring all of your worldly possessions, your family, and your pets’ kind of adventure! And I just finished another one.
Here are four tips to win at PCSing:
Control what you can and let the rest go.
This will help save your sanity! I typically think about what I will miss about my current neighborhood, or town, and then I start finding replacements in my new community. I usually start to feel better once I find our house (usually through AHRN.com or militarybyowner.com), a new doctor (thank you TRICARE Provider website), a salon (hooray for AVEDA!), and a vet for our puppy. There are a million other, more important things I still need to find, but for some reason during our recent move, finding these four things put me at ease to tackle the rest of my very long to do list.
A list and a calendar are always helpful to me. The list gets really long, but checking items off of a list feels so good, and the list itself keeps me on track. Without my calendar, I would be lost! Keeping track of deadlines is an absolute must during a PCS. The reminders on my iPhone calendar are laughable on a normal day, but during a PCS, they are extra hilarious, with reminders like “finish the mayonnaise” at the top of the list!
Don’t be sentimental, it’s just stuff.
I’m not a ‘stuff’ person. If you are, that’s okay. I actually love the day the movers come, and the house is empty at the end of the day. When the movers arrive, I always tell them my goal is for the house be emptied, with no injuries in the process! I also tell them I like the items in my house, but it is just stuff, so if an accident happens and something breaks, it will be okay. I have said this numerous times to numerous packing and moving teams. One time, I thought the crew was going to faint! I really mean it: It’s just stuff! If something is really important to us, we move it ourselves.
Location. Location. Location.
Every time we move, I look forward to learning about a new place, or even rediscovering a place we may have lived before. I know this sounds overly optimistic, but it’s true for us! There are good things everywhere. The other positive point of a PCS is if you aren’t happy about where you live, or where you’re moving to, remember that you won’t be there forever. You will get to PCS again!
Friends are everywhere.
Saying goodbye to friends is one of the hardest parts of a PCS. I have learned there are friends everywhere. Maybe not lots and lots of friends, but I have found at least one absolute, real friend everywhere we have lived. I have also learned it’s okay to be selective about making new friends. Don’t rush into friendships because you live near a person, have kids at the same school, are part of the same unit, or have the same hometown. Being new to a community can be lonely at first, but be confident enough to find the right friendships. You want to truly be a friend to others and allow them to be a friend you. After you move around for a while, you find that you start to see some of the same wonderful familiar friendly faces again and again. The military community is a small world!
Is your military family on the verge of a PCS adventure? Are you excited or nervous? Tell us your tips for winning at PCSing!